“If I accept the fact that my relationships are here to make me conscious, instead of happy, then my relationships become a wonderful self mastery tool that keeps realigning me with my higher purpose for living.” – Eckhart Tolle
The quote above was just posted this morning by an old acquaintance of mine who I haven’t seen in ages – but thanks to FaceBook I know she’s well. It really struck me as something to think about today, as it serendipitously crossed my feed.
My thoughts immediately turned to my husband, as the word ‘relationship’ tends to bring about images of romantic involvement – plus our relationship has been a bit of a tumultuous ride as of late. He has shown me an amazing amount of love and support as I become more conscious and open myself up to the possibility – read: reality – that I’ve been looking at things all wrong my whole life, and that includes our marriage.
He has given me the strength to see that not everyone is in this for themselves. There are some that are not looking for the angle that will get them what they want. And there are quite a few who are not out to get you. Mostly, he has shown me that I’ve had the strength to see this within myself this whole time, plus so much more.
What of other relationships? Past loves, friends, even coworkers or chance encounters. What if each of these bears a lesson, if we would only open our eyes? That old acquaintance that I mentioned? She may not realize it, but she taught me quite a bit about vibration and energy – finding the power inside yourself to shake off the negativity of others and forge your own path. She empowers strength and courage, and to know her is to forever be grateful for her lessons.
Each person that has come into my life has been a mirror. Have you heard the saying? The things you dislike about someone are really the things you dislike about yourself. No one wants to think about this – their flaws, their sins. Yet we are quick to judge others with no knowledge of their personal struggles.
Consider the reverse. The things you love about your spouse, your friends, family, etc., are the things you love about yourself. Maybe you only sense a glimmer of it, and you consider them a mentor & someone whom you aspire to be like. That seed is already within you, just waiting for your nurturing so it can grow & blossom.
The people we meet not only have the ability to teach us about ourselves, but to help us understand what our past relationships were trying to teach us. It’s all just building on itself, hoping for you to see the truth of things and understand your value and place on this Earth. I’m so fortunate to have met my last group of friends on a very enlightening and humbling trip to Peru; they’re all so different from those I’ve known and yet an instant kinship was felt between us all. The light they’ve cast for me is invaluable to all areas of my life, and I hope in some way I’ve returned the favor to them as well.
What are your relationships trying to tell you? Which relationships hold more meaning if you truly shine a light upon it? Please let me know in the comments!
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